And I'm sorry for whatever happened to you. :( The 'Net can be malicious for it gives those who vent, a false sense of self-righteousness if they get enough people they've never met IRL to back them up.

On the other hand, the 'Net can be an amazing thing. Just google "Cat Valente" and you will find an article regarding how her LJ fans and friends came to help when her honeymoon was in jeopardy. :)